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Lou Paget – How To Have Great Sex for Men and Women

Give and You Will Receive!

You can always learn new tricks.  Sometimes they are subtle and other times they are in your face bold.  There are lots of how to have better sex books, articles and eBooks and then there are those by Lou Paget.  Most are painfully old fashion and generally wrong when it comes to women.  They are often targeted mainly at male orgasm.  Some try to teach women techniques for men that leave them frustrated and unfulfilled.  Many women believe that they are supposed to please men at their own cost of pleasure.

Lou Paget has written some very successful books.  She conducts some of the wildest seminars and has many followers of her philosophies for men and women pleasure points.  She is anything but tame.  In my estimation, she has written the definitive series of books teaching men and women how to give great pleasure and how to receive it.  Her videos are so well done, fun and informative.

When we decided to start the PurPlay brand at Keys, we realized that our personal lubricants were different and focused more on pleasure than relieving pain, desensitizing or stimulating using menthol or peppermint.  We intuitively knew that our customers would be more focused on pleasuring and not totally erotic sexplay.  The nuances of pleasuring your partner where skill, a slow-hand and manual stimulation would lead to hours of fun versus a quickie lustful angle targeting the male ego.  We knew we were for and about womens’ pleasure knowing that smart partners would give to receive.  Nothing finer than a woman appreciating her partner after receiving pleasure and orgasms.

What I like about Lou’s books and approach is that she recognizes that both men and women need to learn what works and what does not giving pleasure.  Sometimes she helps us unlearn behaviors and often she teaches new techniques that bring us closer with more intensity.  She never assumes that we know what we are doing or have to act.  She is insanely great at reminding us to ask and tell our partners the fine art of pleasuring each other.

PurPlay is for slow play.  Lou’s books and videos teach the art of slow play.  I have personally found her techniques exciting and life changing.   More, she empowers women to tell what they want and she helps men understand why they would be smart to learn a few new tricks.  PurPlay is a product for committed lovers and Lou teaches us the easy way to improve our skills and techniques.  Safe to say that we believe that lovers who treat sex as a hobby or even a sport that they can do together will learn many new tricks and ways to improve their skills.  Unlike sports and hobbies, our goal is not to better your times or speed up.  PurPlay and Lou’s books are all about slowing down and learning more about your sexuality.

I own two of Lou’s books and look forward to owning them all.

How To Be A Great Lover by Lou Paget

My first book by Lou I purchased was How To Be A Great Lover.  I bought it thinking it would be a great technique book in the bedroom.  It is and so much more.  What it did for me and my guy was to teach us to communicate what we like and what we wanted.

No matter what age we are or how much experience we have, we all want to be great lovers. Most of the sex guides for women, however, have been prudish, esoteric, or incomplete. The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to Be a Great Lover gives you the explicit details that you really want to know on exactly what men like and why, and shares the proven erotic techniques that make for incredible sex you’ll both enjoy.

Acclaimed sex expert Lou Paget draws on the real-life experience of the hundreds of men and women who have attended her workshops and presents their secrets and tricks in an elegant, no-nonsense style. Lou has found that in the bedroom, knowledge equals confidence, and confidence will make you feel empowered, heighten the intimacy of your relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in a variety of intense, new ways. Whether you are starting a new relationship, have run out of creative ideas, or want to light his fire all over again, How to Be a Great Lover has enough spicy tips and surprises to excite both of you and leave him begging for more.

From kissing techniques, ways to create the right atmosphere, and a lesson on safe sex–including the “Italian Method” of putting a condom on a man with your mouth–to twenty different manual techniques and the secrets of great oral sex,  Lou covers all the basics and more.  She offers innovative positions for intercourse, tantalizing moves you can do with a pearl necklace, and a beginner’s guide to anal stimulation, as well as a catalogue of sex toys and how to use them.  With more than ninety step-by-step illustrations that will show you how to drive him wild, How to Be a Great Lover provides proven, sure-fire techniques that will make you a master of the bedroom.

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How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure by Lou Paget

My second book came from my guy.  He saw me pouring into How To Be A Great Lover for him and how much I liked Lou’s style.  He surprised me with a copy of How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure.  Well the truth is, he bought it for himself and I opened the box from Amazon and had to read it first.  What amazed me is how much I learned about myself that I did not know about my sex parts.  Highlighting certain ‘sextions’ for my guy was like soft porn and flirting.  That page marker was meant for him to try things on me.  He would read, try and best of all we would talk about what made it good and how it could be better.

What, and where, is the G-spot? Where do women like to be touched, and how? For every man who’s hungry to please the woman he adores, a refreshingly modern, tastefully explicit, and totally honest guide to giving your woman absolute pleasure.

Millions of men out there are looking for the real scoop on what women like, and want to learn how to really “rub them the right way,” but are either afraid to ask or don’t know where to look.  And millions of women are looking for ways to tell men what really turns them on, but don’t know how to put their desires into words.

Well, search no further!  How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure will take you to another level as a lover, providing you with the proven techniques and explicit advice that have made author Lou Paget one of the world’s most respected and sought-after sexuality experts.

Based on the secrets shared by hundreds of men and women in Lou’s enormously popular Sexuality Seminars, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure gives the true scoop on what women really like, and why, along with detailed surefire techniques guaranteed to drive her wild.  Packed with little-known details and steamy tips and tricks–from the nooks and crannies of a woman’s body to the fine “art of tongue”–How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure removes the mystery from woman’s sexuality and shows you how to enhance your bedroom expertise. With tips on creating the ideal romantic atmosphere, finding her elusive erogenous zones (there are more than you’d think), and mastering the delicate art of foreplay, Lou provides the explicit details on the ins and outs of amazing oral and manual sex, innovative intercourse positions, and most important, how to capture the big O.

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About Lou – More and More

Lou Paget

Complete with over seventy step-by-step illustrations, as well as a catalog of sex toys and tips on how to use them, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure is a refreshingly straightforward, always stimulating guide that will take you and your partner to new levels of ecstasy and intimacy.

Lou Paget began her career as a professional development coach in Los Angeles after leaving her native Calgary, Alberta, Canada in 1989. With a strong background in physical sciences and 15 years research in human sexuality, Paget began organizing women’s focus groups on sex in the early ’90s.

Paget’s sexuality seminars, born from the popularity of her focus group discussions, allow men and women to discuss the merits of sexual forays, fantasies, fallacies, and fears in a safe and open forum.

Paget has compiled findings from her seminars in her books How To Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind and How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man To Know.

Paget has been published in Cosmopolitan, GQ, Vanity Fair, Glamour, Playboy, Redbook, Men’s Health, Maxim, Bride’s, JANE, and Marie Claire, and has also lent her expert voice to national radio programs. She has also appeared in the HBO series “Real Sex” and made a cameo appearance in the feature film “Body Shots.”

Paget holds a bachelor’s degree from the University of Calgary in general studies, with a concentration in physical sciences. She was an AIDS ward volunteer at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles for 11 years and in the workplace. In September of 1996 she left her position at 20th Century Fox to dedicate herself full time to her seminar business. She currently lives in Los Angeles. Check out her web site at www.loupaget.com.

 

Wendy Steele is a Keys Founder and CEO. She is a Melanoma survivor and recognized as one of the foremost experts on the topic. She is the author of Defining Moments, a former Coca-Cola VP and one of the inventors of the PurPlay family of products.